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Midwives need to feel respected, safe and appreciated in their work environment – WHY?

  • Decreased stress in an environment of toxic stress levels
  • Increased joy, love and commitment to their work
  • Renewed energy levels
  • Increased capability of caring for mothers and infants
  • Decrease in cynicism as a result of burnout
  • Better team work and improved staff interaction
  • Empowerment of midwives to create healthy interactions with management and to voice concerns and injustice in the maternity system

Mothers and infants need to feel respected, safe and loved during labour and birth – WHY?

  • Decrease in the length of labour
  • Decreased pitocin use
  • Decrease in the use of epidurals
  • Decrease in the use of forceps
  • Less intrapartum analgesia
  • Decrease in the cesarean section rates
  • Better 5 minute Apgars for babies
  • Less dissatisfaction from the mother with the birth
  • Bonding benefits for mothers and babies, increased breastfeeding rates and decreased stress biomarkers.
  • Improved self-esteem of the mother

Maternity caregivers need to show compassion during labour and birth  – WHY?

  • Improved working atmosphere for staff members with decreased stress levels
  • Increased sense of well-being and self-respect amongst midwives
  • Improved staff-patient interactions and decreased abuse of labouring women
  • Improved birth outcomes
  • Improvement in the Sustainable Development Goals of:
    – Reducing under-five mortality
    – Reducing maternal mortality
  • Cost benefits in terms of reduced numbers of obstetrics interventions and/or necessity of referral to hospitals
  • Decrease in expensive litigation. At a medico-legal summit in Pretoria in March 2015, South African Minister of Health, Dr Aaron Motsolaedi, stated that “Unprecedented levels of litigation for alleged malpractice by doctors have crippled South Africa’s health system” Obstetrics is under the most pressure for escalating litigation. Patients who are satisfied with their births are less likely to sue the medical system.


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